plainenglish asked: Yay, this! You'll still be spamming mine. Yeah I like the spam.
Oh yeah advice. Hm. Okay, a relationship one. There's a really sweet guy who cares about me and whom I'm attracted to and all, and I'm pretty sure he's been testing the waters to see how I feel about him lately. We've known each other as friends for a while. He's an alcoholic and lives far away though (plans to move soon, possibly to my town).
Also, I'm just healing from my first major heartbreak. The heartbreak wasn't the end of an intense three-year relationship or anything, but it has still been a little hard to move past.
I think I'm tempted to try something with this guy, even though the circumstances are not very good for a healthy relationship at this point with him, partially because the idea of being "with" someone who cares about me is really comforting right now. Logic says it's a bad idea.
I'm really tempted to encourage his signals anyway, though. I do care about him, it's just all complicated. What do you think?
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Hmm. Is he planning to try and get help for his alcoholism? If he doesn’t move closer to your town, the alcoholism mixed with the distance could make a relationship very, very difficult. Even if he does move to your town, it still wouldn’t be easy. Of course, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t attempt to have a relationship with him, but it can be a lot of work.
You should always think about if you want to be with him because you truly have feelings for him, or if the main reason is wanting someone there for you. If you are just looking to be with him because you want someone there for you, you may find that eventually you’ve moved past your heartbreak and the feelings you thought for him aren’t there anymore. Does that make sense? I hope it does >_>
If he truly cares for you, and you truly care for him, then I would see where it leads. Don’t rush anything, and don’t commit to a major relationship with him (not saying you’re wanting to do that right now), just let things move along at a comfortable pace. It could be that you two end up having a wonderful relationship :D It’s all about time and personal judgement.
Whatever happens, I hope it works out and you’re happy with your decision :D <3